I am have been getting frustrated with people around me continuously talking! My four yr. old is with me everyday all day until I go to bed. I am trying to concentrate, to focus on my work and am having trouble because he is constantly talking to me, asking me to look at what he is building or drawing, or telling me he wants something. I have explained over and over again that “mom has to work and needs quiet time”, but he doesn't quite “get it”. At this moment I am “lucky” enough to have a little peace and quiet because he is playing quietly with Legos. :) (But I don't know how long this will last) So I am uptight just trying to use this small amount of quiet time wisely, well it is not really quiet time because the puppy and the dog are going nuts with each other!
Yesterday I was overwhelmed with constant noise and talking and just wanted a break, in silence. My two boys and their cousin were very wild, running around screaming, and it was very difficult to get them to calm down. I drove my family home after visiting my brother and parents, and was hoping that everyone would be worn out and quiet in the car, but no, after the kids were all riled up, my partner didn't help too much with calming them down, instead he got them excited about our planned summer vacations. I felt anxiety build up within me as I was driving, just aching for silence, but he would not shut his mouth, and my kids were non stop as well.
All I could think about is me all by myself in silence, me having time alone, with no one around, no one making noise or asking me to look at them or to cook for them or to put on their shoes. No one telling me about their work problems or everything they saw on their field trip. No one telling me to listen to their never ending make believe story, and certainly no kids screaming and yelling while running all around in the night close to the street while I attempt to load the car up. I just wanted to be alone in silence. Time to just breathe.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to think "These people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax".
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect noisy people with the thought "these people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax".
I forgive myself for accepting adn allowing noisy people to exist as a trigger point within me which triggers the thought "these people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax".
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire silence.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the desire for silence to exist within and as me.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the thought "These people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax" to an emotional experience of frustration and anxiety.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate within an emotional experience of frustration and anxiety.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to go into an emotional experience of frustration and anxiety because I realize I cannot make people shut up, but it is within myself that needs to stop my mind, and find peace within myself.
When and as I find myself in a situation where there are a ton of noisy people that I feel I can not deal with - I stop - I breath - I do not accept or allow myself to go off into my mind thinking about how these people outside of me have control over my ability to relax or concentrate. Instead I embrace the noise as part of life, and remind myself that it is only within me to have the control of how relaxed I feel, and the ability to focus, and I find that relaxationand focus in the breath of life, not in the mind.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect noisy people with the thought "these people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax".
I forgive myself for accepting adn allowing noisy people to exist as a trigger point within me which triggers the thought "these people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax".
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to desire silence.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing the desire for silence to exist within and as me.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to connect the thought "These people need to be quiet so I can concentrate and relax" to an emotional experience of frustration and anxiety.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to participate within an emotional experience of frustration and anxiety.
I forgive myself for accepting and allowing myself to go into an emotional experience of frustration and anxiety because I realize I cannot make people shut up, but it is within myself that needs to stop my mind, and find peace within myself.
When and as I find myself in a situation where there are a ton of noisy people that I feel I can not deal with - I stop - I breath - I do not accept or allow myself to go off into my mind thinking about how these people outside of me have control over my ability to relax or concentrate. Instead I embrace the noise as part of life, and remind myself that it is only within me to have the control of how relaxed I feel, and the ability to focus, and I find that relaxationand focus in the breath of life, not in the mind.
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